Hi guys. Hope you all are having a fabulous week. Its Mid week and already past mid month!
Well, time flies doesn't it???.
Lately, I have been reading a whole lot on marriage as I know we can never know it all so I am always open to learn. I came across a post and noted some points I will be sharing shortly. Marriage isn't just a one day affair. The actual marriage in itself is immediately the marriage ceremony is over and everyone returns to their various destination. It has nothing to do with how big or small the wedding ceremony was, how much was involved, or how many celebrities,politicians and big shots were in attendance. Its actually a bigger picture than we ever imagine. So much time is given to the planning stage for the big day than the big life after the day.
For you to have a good marriage, you need a whole lot of stuff:
God: From day one, I have tried to base my relationship on God. Even when I was just friends with my significant other, He also has the fear of God, and that made it easier for us to reason on the same grounds. We see God as the only third party allowed to comment, change and direct us. I tell you, we have tried Him severally and even spoken to Him, like He was physically right beside us. Guess what, He showed Himself present in our midst. The only solid foundation is God. And like I always tell my friends, A woman is the strength of the marriage. A woman who loves and knows God will never get it wrong, You may fall severally but You will always rise up.
Maturity: Like they say, age is just a number. I have met several people who act way more mature than they look and vice versa. Age could be a factor but maturity of the mind is of
paramount importance. With maturity, you can handle a whole lot of
challenges and settle problems with ease.
Patience: I remember early last year when I figured out my relationship was always having issues more often than not (of which I always began the fight, lol ), I took out time to figure what the issue was and somehow I realized that I lacked patience big time. It actually topped the list of my prayer points January 1st 2013(not a joking matter). I have told anyone who cared to listen to always advice me on that subject, and I can say putting all words together, I can clearly see the power of Patience in my life & relationship. I need more and more dosage of it as I can never have enough. Someone once said ''when I was getting married, one of the things I was told was, go to the
market, there is a material called PATIENCE, buy it, sew and wear if you
must succeed in marriage. I tell you it was good advice; everyone needs
it no matter who you are dealing with''
Financial stability: Money can never be over emphasized in a relationship. It doesn't mean millions must be involved, just have enough to take care of the basic needs of life and enough for the raining day. I would prefer mentioning that you should be educated, have a steady source(s) of income, rather than preach about having millions of money.
Love: My Cousin always told me when I was young that Love is a Virus, and it will someday catch up with me.lol. It can make you do things you never imagined you will do. Dont be surprised that severally people walk the isle with no love existing in their hearts. Needless to say, people marry for several reasons. However, I only believe in the reason for Love, for it is this love that makes me imagine a future and a life with my partner. Along the line, some fall in love and others who tried severally without succeeding end up pulling out from the marriage. Some also who married for love fall out of love during the marriage. Well people say True love never dies......I'm not sure if I believe that or not.All I would say is you should be able to figure out why you love that person. Is it a physical attraction, attitude, way of life, looks?....whatever the reason is have it in mind that You are in the business till death do you part......
Good health: Please ensure you confirm the compatibility of you and your partner before proceeding into anything serious. AT times love can be deadly o, people just get carried away and assume all is well. When the basics are done, all other issues can be handled amicably if any comes up. If there is any ailment you are aware existing in your partner, you must be ready to live with it and stand by your partner in trying moments. Remember its 'in sickness and in health'. We all pray for good health, but nothing stops you from doing the general check ups.
There are several other things you need to know, do or learn before marriage; find them, do them and ENJOY!!!
If there are more points , Please comment below as I would be happy to know..
xoxo
simplyfej
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